Internet commentators gathered in defense of a father who used money for his fiancée’s wedding dress to replace his daughter’s broken iPad.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITEA**hole, Redditor u/No_Masterpiece7661 (aka the original poster or OP) said his soon-to-be stepdaughter was responsible for the damaged device and detailed the heated aftermath of his decision to right a mistake right away.
Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for taking money from the clothing budget we had to pay for the iPad that broke my fiancé’s child?” the post has received more than 10,000 votes and 1,700 comments since September 17.
“My fiancé and I are getting married in three months,” OP began. “We both have a child from a previous relationship, my daughter Spencer (15F) and her daughter Emma (8F).
The original poster continued to explain that their children get along well, saying that he bought his daughter an iPad last year and that the 15-year-old takes it everywhere and uses it for creative and academic purposes.
The original poster also said his fiancé’s 8-year-old daughter recently became interested in the iPad — so much so that rules were put in place to ensure the device wouldn’t break.
Unfortunately, they were less than effective.
“Emma likes to sit by the stairs and watch videos on my or my fiancé’s phone,” OP wrote. “Five days ago she took Spencer’s iPad and sat down there.
“She got scared when she heard my fiancé call her and dropped it. The screen broke completely and my daughter was so sad,” OP continued. “My fiancé said all her money is currently going to her, her… [maid of honor]bridesmaids and mommy’s dresses and I said I’d take the money from there and [buy] Spencer a new one.
“I don’t think she believed me…[but] the next day i went to buy it and paid [with] the card we use for wedding expenses (it has BOTH of our money in it), “OP added.”[My fiancée] came up to me, called me a [a**hole] and say she’ll have to buy cheaper dresses now…because ‘I stole from her.'”
Last year, couples in the United States spent an average of $28,000 on weddings, according to The Knot’s 2021 Real Weddings Survey.
Including an engagement ring, that figure rises to a whopping $34,000.
But while ceremony and reception venues, as well as catering companies, have the biggest price tag, the perfect wedding dress certainly costs a pretty penny.
In 2021, 93 percent of brides-to-be chose to buy new dresses rather than a second-hand, sentimental option. And according to The Knot’s Real Weddings Survey, the average cost of a new wedding dress was $1,800.
Add dresses for the bridesmaid, other bridesmaids, and the mother of the bride, and couples who choose to cover outfits for their wedding party look at a multi-thousand dollar tab for dresses only.
iPads on Apple.com range from $329 to $1,099 in comparison.
Redditors responding to the viral Reddit post, however, were adamant that regardless of the cost, the original poster’s fiancé should have taken financial responsibility for the device her daughter broke. Regardless of how it would affect her plans to buy dresses for herself and her bridal party.
“Emma broke a [iPad] she was expressly told not to touch,” Redditor wrote u/Helia-axis in the top comment of the post, which received more than 18,000 votes. “You told your partner you would use money to replace it from a joint account . “
“Her dresses and wedding expenses do NOT take precedence over other bills and obligations,” Redditor agreed to u/1moreKnife2theheart, receiving more than 6,000 votes. “Replacing the [iPad] is an obligation and a cost. Her daughter took something that didn’t belong to her and was repeatedly told not to touch…and finally broke it.”
Redditor u/cryinoverwangxian, whose comment has garnered more than 1,000 votes, warned of what OP’s fiancé’s response to his iPad replacement could mean for his family’s future.
“If Spencer had learned that your fiancé wasn’t going to replace him and would have her wait until later, what would she think of your wife-to-be?” they wondered. “Life is about more than her marriage.”
“Take this incident as a window into your future life,” Redditor echoed u/unpopularcryptonite, receiving more than 7,000 votes. “Visualize where your daughter is on your fiancé’s priority list.”
News week contacted u/No_Masterpiece7661 for comment.